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Friday 13th, a Small Elephant and a New Trio

This was a blog post I did for MySpace, which I thought I’d put up here too in the absence of any other blog contributions in the last 13 weeks. Even though it has nothing to with the Trio. At least not this trio.

Friday the 13th has come and gone. Just another day for most folk, but some really do think it’s unlucky. I met someone this morning who told me that she’d made her son stay at home today, because on the last Friday 13th he crashed the brand new family car. I found myself imagining her getting home from work to find her son frantically trying to repair the completely demolished greenhouse, which he crashed into with the lawn mower.

I guess i don’t believe in luck.

This was also the day my wife Corrina was ‘due’ to give birth to our first baby. There’s not much sign of any action though, so it looks like the bump is refusing to join the select group of babies who arrive on their ‘due’ date. Apparently only between 3 and 5% of all births happen on their ‘due’ date. (I keep putting the word ‘due’ in inverted commas. Sorry if you find that ‘annoying’.) Man, I have learned so many statistics recently. Did you know that 74% of all statistics are made up? 23% are based on unqualified research, and the last 5% are put together by people who can’t count. All true.

Most of the parents I know talk about how incredible it is having a baby. I can’t really comment as we haven’t had ours yet – but the whole build up to it has been kind of amazing. Our families have been busy making stuff. Sewing, stitching, knitting… (There’s even been curtains made!) It’s great to see how everyone has been kind of ‘rejuvenated’ by the prospect of a new addition to the family – a sense of optimism is definitely in the air. Maybe it’s all a wee bit more amplified because we both have fairly small families with hardly any young’uns. Who knows. And our pals have been fantastic too – we are completely kitted out for the new arrival having not spent a penny, thanks to donations of little-used (and in some cases, never-used) newborn baby stuff. I still don’t know what half of it’s for.

Actually, the not-spending-a-penny thing isn’t entirely true… A lot of the advice we got from friends when we told them about having the baby was along the lines of “Don’t buy anything! We’ve got buggies/cots/seats/clothes etc we don’t use anymore…” Great stuff, we thought. A lot of the stuff you only use for a few months anyway… But a couple of months ago I was talking to one pal, who is already a father with another on the way, and I was given this single bit of advice: “Buy something!

Huh? But everybody else said…

“No, buy something – even if it’s just a wee thing. It makes it real.”

That struck a chord with me ‘cos it certainly wasn’t feeling very real at that point. So the other day, we finally got round to it – “Let’s go buy something for the baby” we said.

Now it sometimes feels kind of like we’re one of the last couples I know of to have a kid, but just in case anyone out there is yet to go through this fantastic journey, one small, humble piece of advice I would give is to be wary of the big-brand shops.

We made the mistake of going to one of them. Not mentioning any names, but let’s just say it’s not called Fathercare. We really did intend to just buy something wee, but all of a sudden we got totally taken in by the “Look, what’s that thing? – oh, we’ll be needing one of those!” scenario. The whole layout of these stores is unreal – you’re immediately confronted by this bewildering array of stuff and you’re given the impression you just won’t be able to survive having a baby without them. After what seemed like an entire weekend wandering round the store, we got to the checkout. I couldn’t believe it – the till showed a total of nearly £100. The assistant asked if we wanted a store/rewards card. When we eventually regained the ability to speak, we asked why. Noticing that the bundle of items we’d picked up were all for a new-born, she said: “Well, let’s face it – you’ll be coming in here for probably the next seven years, so you’ll save money in the long-run.” Are you KIDDING?? You think we’re coming back? We just bought £100 worth of stuff that I’ve never heard of before! (Apart from the small elephant – I’d heard of those.) Now, I’m aware by this point that we’re the mugs for actually falling for the “This stuff is absolutely CRUCIAL to your successfully looking after a baby” routine, but the staff actually seem to believe it too! We started to get the picture of what everyone was talking about with the “Don’t buy anything” advice. Where would it end? “Baby’s 2 years old now, time we bought a self-moisturising, temperature-controlled, safety-bath-hat & activity centre.” (Available in a choice of colours, of course…)

Another friend (and parent) asked me recently, knowing that the due date was very near, if we were ready. I said I didn’t really know.

She said: ” Do you have nappies?”

Yes.

“Do you have somewhere for the baby to sleep?”

Yes.

“Then you’re ready.”

I guess that sums it up. (I may have simplified that conversation for effect, but you get the point…)

But if you have loads of money to spend, then absolutely, go and spend it on your baby. Why not? I’m sure I would if I could. You’ll probably never feel there’s a more worthy reason for spending such a huge pile of cash. If you don’t have loads of money, does it matter? – Do you really have to spend £20 on a pair of shoes for a baby who can’t walk yet, and won’t fit in a couple of months?

Of course, all this talk of spending (or not spending) money is all pretty insignificant in the big scheme of things.  Needless to say, I’m very excited about the impending augmentation. Corrina and I have been together for 18 years now, and I kind of thought we’d always be a duo. This was a somewhat unexpected adventure, but now I cannae wait.

Trio it is then…

A Trip To Halifax

This is the story of a trip that the trio took for a gig in Halifax last
December. At least, as I remember it.

It’s epic, and possibly too long for a mere blog post but it kind of needs to be this long, and it’s all true. At least, as I remember it.

For the purposes of this tale and to avoid confusion, Tom Bancroft will be referred to as Tom, and Tom Lyne will be referred to as Tomtom. There is also a GPS navigation system in this story, and I am aware that Tomtom is also a popular brand name of GPS system. This is purely coincidental. 

The role of Geoff Amos will be played by himself, even though he only has one line. Thank you.

 

2.30pm: And we’re off. On our way to Halifax for a gig, looking forward to it. It’s gonna be good.

We were going to leave around 1 pm, but the journey has started a little later than planned. This is due, possibly, to the fact that Tom (designated driver for this particular trip) had very admirably and diligently opted to get his spare wheel replaced at a reputable auto repair centre before we left. Now that’s responsible behaviour in my book. Good work. I mean, it’s only an hour and a half delay… we can make that up.

Tom is driving his Daewoo, and in the Daewoo is Tom, Tomtom, Me, Tom’s drum kit, Tomtom’s double bass, 3 suit-bags, a few cases and an array of unlikely items that seem to live in the car. It’s a tight fit – I’m sitting in what’s left of the back seat, knees up around my ears and surrounded by instruments and bags. But we’re ok. We’re moving. It’s going well.

We’re heading south. It’s probably a total of 3 and a half hours journey so we should arrive about 6pm. The gig’s not til 8pm, so there’s plenty time. We also have the added bonus of travelling with Tom’s GPS sat-nav system, so nothing can go wrong. Tom has been telling Tomtom and me about how fantastic the sat-nav is, and how “you’ll never go back once you’ve used one…” Great stuff, I think. It’s going well.

2.40 pm: Ten minutes into the journey, Tom says: “Shit.” to no-one in particular.

Tomtom & I says: “What?”

Tom says: “I think I forgot my bass drum pedal”

Tomtom & I says nothing, and we all silently contemplate the implications of doing a gig with no bass drum pedal.

After a few moments, Tom says “Shit” again.

Tomtom & I says “What?” again.

Tom says: “I think my drums sticks were with the bass drum pedal”

“Well,” I says, “we’re just coming up to Hawick – there’s a wee music shop there, maybe we could buy some sticks and a pedal if they have them?”

There’s a general agreement, and we’re back on track. Everything is going well again.

2.45 pm: A matter of minutes later we roll into Hawick, and with expert local knowledge (having grown up near there), I guide us to the music shop. Tom pulls up on the pavement outside the shop. The kerb is a good 20cm high and the car hits it with quite a bump. As concerns for the well-being of Tom’s tyres are raised, talk briefly turns to the coincidental and fortunate trip he made to the reputable auto repair centre to replace his spare wheel, just a matter of hours ago. We are somewhat reassured.

2.55 pm:  We leave Hawick’s only music shop with four drumsticks but no bass drum pedal. It’s not the problem solved, but it’s something. We’re on the road again. It’s still going well.

Now, sat-nav systems mostly, to my knowledge (I still don’t own one), have an in-built pre-recorded voice that audibly gives you directions throughout your journey. You can choose from a variety of different voices and languages, and apparently you can also download various ‘novelty’ voices and character types. The voice guiding us on Tom’s sat-nav, for some reason, has Tourette syndrome, an inherited neuropsychiatric disorder, characterized by the presence of multiple vocal tics. In short, the voice on Tom’s sat-nav habitually shouts and swears at him when giving any directions. This fact has no direct effect on the story, but bearing in mind that the machine appears to give you advice whether you need it or not, it will give you a more accurate sense of the tension that will start to accumulate from this point on.

4 pm: We’ve just pulled on to the M6, the main artery south from Scotland and it feels good to be on the open road, travelling at speed. Tom’s phone rings. He answers, and Tomtom and I are quietly listening to one side of the conversation. Throughout the course of the 3-minute call we hear some of the following phrases: “Yeah, I collected it this morning…”, “No…”, “Really?…”, “Oh…”, “I’m really sorry about that…” .

4.05 pm: Tom hangs up. “What was that about?” we say. He tells us that it was the reputable auto repair centre on the phone wondering why he took the wrong spare wheel. “What do you mean?” we ask. Apparently, Tom had been mid-conversation with someone on his mobile phone when he arrived to collect his spare wheel from the reputable auto repair centre, and one of the mechanics had pointed vaguely in the direction of a pile of “ready to collect’ spare wheels. Being distracted by his mobile phone conversation, Tom’s attention perhaps wasn’t fully on the matter at hand. However it happened, he did not pick up the wheel he was supposed to.

4.06 pm: BOOM! doof-doof-doof-doof-doof-doof-doof-doof-doof-doof.

This is something like the noise we hear as  one of the tyres blows out and we limp on to the hard shoulder.

“What were the chances?” one of us said. Maybe we all said it. Maybe we just thought it. Or maybe it was just me. But what were the chances?

Tom gets out to retrieve the spare wheel… maybe it will fit anyway. Of course, we have to unpack the car to get access, and this is when we really start enjoying ourselves – it’s a brilliantly cold and dark december afternoon, and we’re standing on the hard shoulder, a few feet away from busy 80mph traffic with all the instruments scattered on the ground, and frankly, very inappropriate clothing.

4.10 pm: Tom skillfully and efficiently jacks the car up and gets the blown-out wheel off. The spare doesn’t fit. It’s for a small Honda. It so doesn’t fit, it’s nearly funny. If it wasn’t so cold it might have been really funny, but as it was, only nearly funny. We get back in the car, and Tom gets on the case. “We just need a garage.” he says, encouragingly and gets his phone out. We can see lights of a town nearby, so this is a good sign. From directory enquiries he gets the number of a garage. He calls them, but they can’t come out to where we are – they could fix the tyre if we can get to them, but they’re just too busy to send someone out. “Right, I just need to get the tyre to them then.” Again, Tomtom & I are encouraged. Tom calls a local taxi company, again with the help of directory enquiries. After a frustrating but short call, Tom learns that the taxi company won’t come on to the motor-way to collect him. “Not allowed” they said. Something to do with insurance.

4.30 pm: The police pull up behind us, and the inside of our car is suddenly illuminated with dancing lights, like beautiful blue rays of hope. “Hooray” I thinks, “the police will save us!”. The police do not save us. Seemingly they are not allowed to leave the motorway. The two vaguely sympathetic coppers depart in search of more serious motor-way related crime, but not before making some intensely unhelpful comment about it possibly being a different situation, had we had blonde hair and big tits. Us pointing out that, between the three of us, we do technically possess both of those physical attributes does not help.

4.40 pm: So back to the taxi company plan. After some intense negotiation Tom arranges to meet a minicab near the motor-way and they will drive him to a garage – a fine compromise we all thought. And without a word, and before we can say “There’s no business like it…”, he’s striding down the hard shoulder of the M6, into the dark, towards the next off-ramp wearing only a T-shirt for warmth and carrying the whole, broken wheel under one arm. In all my life I have never seen such an awesome sight, such determination, such a completely selfless act of courage in the face of adversity. It’s very moving.

He also has the car keys in his pocket.

5 pm – 6pm: Not being able to turn on the engine of the stranded, 3-wheeled Daewoo, Tomtom and I pass a very cold hour by trying to arrange a bass drum pedal to be delivered to the venue, as well as trying to alert the venue to the fact that we may be cutting it fine getting there in time for the concert. Also during this hour, we are unaware that Tom has done slightly more walking than he’d anticipated. The minicab driver had suddenly stopped the car, saying “I’ll just drop you here! I’ve got another fare to collect you see –  The Garage is just up that road there…”. As it turned out, it was just up that road, but he didn’t mention it was over a mile away. When Tom does eventually make it back to the car, the vision of him appearing out of the darkness with an intact wheel has all the power and awe of his departure, and more. We are watching the return of a hero. Somebody will write songs about this moment one day. We have an unspoken urge to get out of the car and salute him or something. We don’t salute him, but we do get out of the car. He has to change the wheel, and the extra weight would not be helpful at all.

6.10pm: New wheel. We’re good to go! As we finally pull out on to the motor-way again, Tomtom and I sense that Tom has had enough of the verbal abuse he’s been receiving from the sat-nav, as he calmly re-programs it. We are now being guided to Halifax by the voice of Yoda from the film Star Wars.

7.45 pm: After a further hour and a half of wonderfully eventless travelling, we reach the outskirts of Halifax. I make the decision to abandon the force, ignoring Tom’s plea just to trust Yoda’s advice: “turn left, you must, at next junction, hmmmm…” and I phone Geoff Amos, who booked the gig for us, and is waiting nervously at the venue. We are supposed to be on stage in 15 minutes. The ever-resourceful Geoff tells us that he’s got us a bass drum pedal, and that the venue is all set for us and ready to go. “We might just pull this off!” I thinks to myself. “How do we find the venue Geoff?” Now I’m sure Geoff gave us a perfectly good description of the building and its surroundings, but he doesn’t drive, so he can’t really give us the right road directions. We have the post code programmed into the sat-nav, and a vague idea of signs to follow, yet there are now five people involved in directing us to the gig; The three of us randomly pointing at signs, saying stuff like “Look, there’s a sign for the bus station – isn’t it near the bus station?”. Geoff saying stuff like ” It’s a massive building, looks like an old factory warehouse, can’t you see it yet?” And Yoda with the hard-to-take-seriously, but ultimately correct “prepare you must, for right turn…”

Then, suddenly, with a matter of minutes to go before we’re due on stage, we pull on to a road that stretches out before us, and is surrounded by buildings that look like old factory warehouses. And at the end of the road, arms waving, is Geoff. We’ve made it! As we draw nearer, we realise Geoff is gesturing in the direction of an alley off the main road, so we obediently follow his directions. Then we spot someone from the venue at the end of the alley beckoning us towards what seems to be a service entrance to the building. With his arms swinging briskly and enthusiastically to the right like some crazed disco dance, we follow his indicated direction at the speed of someone who is late for a gig, and turn in to an opening in the building and down a ramp. “Great!” we think. “We’re here! Straight to the door. WE’RE GONNA MAKE THE GIG!!” When we reach the bottom of the ramp, we realise that something is not quite right.

What nobody had thought about in the few seconds leading up to this point, was the fact that this service entrance ramp wasn’t really meant for cars. We have driven into what is effectively a dead end tunnel that is only a few millimeters wider than the car itself. Sure enough, there’s the door right in front of us, like some metaphoric finish line, a tantilising, wondrous portal that would magically evaporate all the struggle and adversity of the day simply by walking through it, the door that will take us to the gig, to the warmth and anticipation of an eager audience, sitting waiting patiently for the concert to begin. It’s just a few feet away… but there’s not enough room to open the car doors. We are well and truly wedged. The silence in the car is broken by a wise-sounding voice: “Reached your destination, you have. Hmmm.”

It only took about 3 seconds to drive down the ramp, but it takes us nearly 5 minutes to reverse up it again, inch by inch, so close is the gap between the car and  the sides of the high walls. When we do finally get out, a man appears with a trolley and as the car spews out the instruments and cases on to the trolley, we reflect briefly on the day’s events. “It’s going well” I think.

We rolled the trolley down the ramp, through the magic door and into one of the best gigs we’d done all year.